Gibran said in Seven times have I despised my soul that he despised his soul, because when she committed a wrong, she comforted herself that others also commit wrong.
纪伯伦在《我曾七次鄙视自己的灵魂》中说他鄙视自己的灵魂，因为当她犯了错，却借由别人也会犯错来宽慰自己。
Mistakes are inevitable for everyone, and they could be excusable in some cases, at the same time, there is no shame in making mistakes. It is only when people dare not admit their mistakes that they are criticized. Therefore, we should face them frankly and look for the reasons instead of blindly evading them and finding excuses for ourselves. After all, excuse can't cover up the fact of making mistakes, and it may not be the best shield for mistakes. Similarly, other people's mistakes can't be an excuse for our own mistakes, which is a psychology of avoidance. If we are wrong, we should find problems from ourselves and review ourselves, instead of using this fluke psychology to forget the crux.
错误是每个人都不可避免的，在某些情况下是情有可原的，并且犯错不可耻，不敢承认自己的错误才是为人诟病的，所以我们应该坦然面对错误、去寻找原因，而非一味地逃避错误、给自己找理由。毕竟理由无法掩盖犯错的事实，也未必是错误最好的挡箭牌。同样，别人也会犯错不能成为自己犯错的借口，这是一种逃避心理，错在己身，就应该从自己身上发现问题、检讨自己，而非用这种侥幸心理去把症结抛诸脑后。
Many people are afraid to talk about their mistakes and think it is a very shameful thing. However, it will only make mistakes worse and worse, and it will also hurt your confidence invisibly. Taking a very small thing that I have experienced as example, I once answered a seemingly simple subject mistakenly because of carelessness in my homework. I just changed the result to be correct and comforted myself that everyone could be careless sometimes, then I forgot about it. However, when I made mistakes in similar subjects twice or even three times, I couldn't help but start to doubt myself, and I had to face up to my mistakes. After all, the reason for the mistakes was that I wasn't careful enough, and because I didn't pay enough attention to them, the same mistake was repeated one after another. Carelessness is possible for everyone, but it doesn't mean that we can reduce our vigilance against it.
很多人都怯于去谈论自己的错误，认为这是一件很不光彩的事情。可是这样只会让错误愈演愈烈，也会无形中打击自己的信心。就拿我自己经历过的很微小的一个事情来说，我曾经做作业时因为马虎将一道看似很简单的题目写错了，我仅仅将结果改为了正确的，并安慰自己说谁都有马虎的时候，便将这个题目抛诸脑后了。可是当我两次甚至三次做错类似的题目时，我不禁开始怀疑自己，也不得不正视自己的错误，错误的原因终究是自己不够细心，还因为不够重视，导致同样的错误接二连三地重演。粗心大意是每个人都可能有的，但这并不意味着我们可以对它放松警惕。
In a word, only by possessing the courage to face mistakes first can we overcome the challenges of life. When we encounter problems, we should first look for reasons from ourselves, instead of all kinds of prevarication. In this way, every time when we make mistakes could become an opportunity for us to grow and become a stepping stone rather than an obstacle on our way forward.
总而言之，只有先拥有面对错误的勇气，才能迎接生活挑战的能力。遇到问题，首先要从自己身上寻找原因，而不是各种推诿。如此，每一次错误才能成为我们成长的机会，成为我们前进道路上的垫脚石而非阻碍。
Author: Yu Jinye
Date: January 20, 2023
