People’s growth cost a lot and only after giving up something can we really grow up and realize the importance of grasp. It is often counterproductive if we keep pursing for carrying all things. In the long path of life, how to keep the balance between catch and release and how to view their relationship weighs a lot.
人的成长是有代价的，只有在舍弃一些之后，我们才能真正蜕变，也才能懂得抓住的珍贵。一味地去追求抓住所有，往往反而适得其反。人生漫漫，如何把握抓住与放下的度，以及如何看待二者之间的关系，至关重要。
We can't put everything in our minds, decide what is our to hold and let the rest go. One recent hot topic online seems amusing. After receiving a wedding invitation from a classmate who doesn’t contact with you for many years, whether to go to the banquet with money has triggered a wide range of netizen heated discussion. Some people said that we should cherish every hard-won relationship, while others point out that maintaining such hypocritical interpersonal relationships costs a lot but values a little. From my point of view, it’s better to think carefully about what this relationship brings to you, the selection criteria of grasp and renunciation is the level of the feedback in value on you.
我们不能把所有的事情都放在心上，想好什么事情是决不能放手的，剩下的就顺其自然。近来网上的一则争论颇为可笑，一个人在收到多年不联系的同学发来的结婚邀请函之后，对于是否要去赴宴随份子钱而犹豫不决。有些人说要珍视每一段来之不易的关系和情谊，而另外一群人则直言维持这种虚伪的人际关系耗费成本高且价值不大。在我看来，不妨去仔细思索，这段关系带给自己的究竟是什么，抓住与放下的选择标准还是对自身的价值反馈的高低程度。
From another perspective, grasping and releasing is also a process of selecting and trying. Put how much weight to keep and release is our selection. In our whole life, all the past experiences had actually changed us imperceptibly. We choose to put down the childish toys, but it doesn’t mean we hadn’t enjoyed the wonderful childhood; We choose to put down someone, but it can’t deny our encounter; We choose to give up some of our obsessiveness, but it doesn't mean we hadn't fought for them. Everything is one part of our current wonderful life. Put something down may help us better grasp important things in the current life.
换个角度来看，抓住与放下何尝又不是一种选择与尝试。抓住什么，放下什么，都是自我的一种选择。生命的历程中，过往的所有经历实际上早已经潜移默化中改变了我们。我们选择放下儿时的玩具，并不意味着我们没有享受过那段美好的童年；我们选择放下某些人，那也并不意味着我们没有与他们产生过交集；我们选择放下心中的一些执念，但是这并不意味着我们曾经没有为它们而奋斗过。过往的一切都是我们人生履历中精彩的一笔，放下它们，我们或许能更好地去把握当下，抓住当前生活中重要的事物。
As to the relationship between the two, proper renunciation can help to better grasp things in the future. For instance, we often give up many in the process of study, but we can catch more important things in the future. Their feedback in value is obviously different. Therefore, we should keep and release with our own standards for different things.
在看待二者之间的关系时，我们可以理解为，适当的放下是为了更好的抓住。例如，在学习的道路上，我们常常会放弃一些，但我们可能在未来抓住更加重要的事，二者的价值反馈显然有差异。因此，对于不同的人和事，我们要学会灵活应变、以自己的标准去抓住和放下。
Author: Zhao Jiaming
Reviewer: Shan Jiaqi
Date: February 1, 2023
